ROCD

Struggling with ROCD lately and it’s really getting to me. I know I love my partner deeply, but these intrusive thoughts just won’t let up. It’s like this constant battle between my heart and my mind, and it’s exhausting. Does anyone else experience this? Feeling like you need to do something to ease the uneasiness, even though you know deep down you’re with the right person? It’s like walking on a tightrope of happiness and doubt.

Relationship OCD

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 41w ago

i suffer and have suffered from this in the recent past. i’m very in love with my current partner, but i’ve had thoughts of “do i love her” or do i still have feelings. what helped me the most was actually talking to her about it! it’s so, so scary to bring up because you don’t want them to misinterpret it, but talking it out with her made it so much less scary and we are able to have a much more open and deeper connection now. exposure is scary, but it works!

Username: FragileFragile

Date posted: 41w ago

Yes I feel that. My mind switches from „we are made for each other, I love him so much“ to „did even love him in the first place?? Maybe your feelings were misinterpreted by you..“. It is really painful. I wish you all the best and hope it will be better for you soon!

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 41w ago

@Fragile I agree I like to think that these doubts come in because OCD is ego dystonic meaning that the obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors about the relationship don’t align with your true feelings and values. So when we worry if we truly love them it really means we are scared to lose them and deeply care about them.

Username: Butterfly_23

Date posted: 1y ago

ROCD

General statement/question for anyone who can possibly relate: I've been struggling with ROCD for about 3 months now, the typical "do I actually love him", "what if I don't and I'm just leading him on", "why don't I feel connected any more, this must mean something is wrong with us", "planning the future makes me anxious because we might break up"...the list goes on. I've been especially struggling these past few days. I want a big future with this man and I've never second guessed it until all these intrusive thoughts have come into my life with a bang. I hate them. I feel so emotionally drained and incapable of enjoying the moments I have with him because I'm constantly thinking about the things missing. The fact I struggle to stay present. As we all probably know the age old reassurance after an anxiety inducing thought- I do this fairly often, googling my thoughts and why I'm feeling this way. I am so beyond exhausted. I know I want to marry this man and a future with him isn't scary, it's just significant moments that trigger me and suddenly I'm spiring into the OCD cycle again. I just want to know other people feel the same? I've been feeling so flat and disconnected from everyone, especially him which breaks my heart. I know I love him, so deeply - even writing that my brain said "are you sure you do?". I just want to see if other people experience ROCD similar to me. Thanks

Relationship OCD

Username: peachy!

Date posted: 1y ago

having trouble with rocd

hi! I'm really struggling with rocd right now. I have a boyfriend that I'm very in love with, and havent doubted that until now. I've been struggling with what I think is derealization, which has caused myself to feel distant from him, and like he isnt actually my boyfriend. because of this, I now I keep getting repetitive intrusive thoughts that I dont love him, and that I never loved him, and that I don't even know him. its terrifying. I've told him about this, and hes very supportive. he knows I still love him, and just wants to help me. but I'm so terrified of these thoughts to the point of almost believing them. if anyone else has struggled with this, how do you cope? I've been trying to reassure myself of my memories of him, and looking at things I do currently that show I still have love for him, but I would love some other ideas since it's still hard to convince myself. thank u!!

Relationship OCD

Username: No one knows

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 45w ago

ROCD

I’m really struggling with my ocd right now. I feel like I’m unhappy in my relationship and all I do is get frustrated. I’m questioning everything about my relationship and I’m worried I’m going to ruin everything.

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