Is this rocd?

I had an argument with my boyfriend 3 months ago, I posted a picture and people were commenting on it and one of the comments was a guy that flirted with me that I completely forgot about. I felt guilty for so long, my inner mind was calling me a cheater and that I’m not worth it. It progressed onto me thinking “do I love him?” And “should I break up with him?”, I cried over the fact that I started to lose myself and being so scared to lose him over my thoughts. I seek for reasurance from online sources (like Reddit), my friends and my mother because I want to believe that it’s just my head that is telling me things and not my actual feelings. My mind keeps on telling me things that I don’t want to hear, I lost feelings that I didn’t want to lose, I lost happiness and comfort and love that I didn’t want to lose but it’s all in my head? I do love him but I don’t feel anything anymore? It’s all confusing. I miss missing him, it makes me feel so bad that I don’t feel the way that I used to anymore. bearing in mind that this is my first healthiest relationship I’ve been in. He’s treated me better than my exes that treated me so poorly. Could this be Depression and anxiety / ROCD? If so does it get better?

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Username: Cassi logrecoCassi logreco

Date posted: 44w ago

I had the EXACT same thing with my very first boyfriend, and I promise you, you are not alone in this, it is I would consider an intrusive thought, and you keep questioning yourself, I cried that I was going to break up with my boyfriend for no reason, just because a random thought popped up, or say if a random guy would hit on me, I felt terrible as if I did something wrong or cheated, but I would make sure to assure myself that it's a feeling, and I didn't do anything wrong, and I never would. I was alot of anxiety to go through but somehow eventually I got past it, but then I would move on to another intrusive thought that maybe I'm having these thoughts because I like girls, but talking to my family helped me alot and I realized that they were intrusive thoughts. I'm so sorry your going through this, I'm sure it will get better for you! I always talked to my boyfriend about it, and he was understanding and it helped alot. I hope this helps in someway, but I remember crying for no reason because I just had thoughts pop in my head, and always had a "what if" question.

Username: DahliaStranner29DahliaStrann...

Date posted: 44w ago

I can really sense your pain in your words, particularly how guilty you feel over something that happened by chance, and how this situation has made you question your feelings for your boyfriend. I hear and validate your confusion and heartache; OCD can be incredibly tricky and tough. Yet, remember she's just an over-protective friend who sometimes gets things wrong.💪🌼 I wanted to share with you the tool that's been a gamechanger for me when my OCD gets really tough, it's this AI OCD therapy tool named "unstuck" (unstuckmyocd.com/try). My OCD support group folks recommended it, and I only wish I'd known about it sooner. I believe it'll be particularly helpful for your case, because it could give you personalized, step-by-step guidance much like an OCD therapist when these intrusive thoughts about your relationship become overwhelming. The tool helps you build needed skills to resist compulsions like reassurance seeking, which you mentioned you've been doing quite a bit. Hey, I'm here if you have any questions about the app, or even just need to chat more, okay? 🌻

Username: Butterfly_23

Date posted: 1y ago

ROCD

General statement/question for anyone who can possibly relate: I've been struggling with ROCD for about 3 months now, the typical "do I actually love him", "what if I don't and I'm just leading him on", "why don't I feel connected any more, this must mean something is wrong with us", "planning the future makes me anxious because we might break up"...the list goes on. I've been especially struggling these past few days. I want a big future with this man and I've never second guessed it until all these intrusive thoughts have come into my life with a bang. I hate them. I feel so emotionally drained and incapable of enjoying the moments I have with him because I'm constantly thinking about the things missing. The fact I struggle to stay present. As we all probably know the age old reassurance after an anxiety inducing thought- I do this fairly often, googling my thoughts and why I'm feeling this way. I am so beyond exhausted. I know I want to marry this man and a future with him isn't scary, it's just significant moments that trigger me and suddenly I'm spiring into the OCD cycle again. I just want to know other people feel the same? I've been feeling so flat and disconnected from everyone, especially him which breaks my heart. I know I love him, so deeply - even writing that my brain said "are you sure you do?". I just want to see if other people experience ROCD similar to me. Thanks

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Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

Anyone relate (ROCD)

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he is an absolute angel. All throughout the relationship I would have nightmares and intrusive thoughts “what if he leaves/cheats”. And he would reassure me and treat me like the world revolves around me. Lately I’m realizing this was actually ocd and not anxiety as I had previously thought. I would get paranoid if he didn’t check his messages for a couple hours, I’d get anxious if I saw an ambulance heading toward his street while I was driving, I would ask for reassurance that he loved me constantly. Bear in mind, I have no reason to have these fears. My boyfriend is my best friend and has supported me through thick and thin and he’s amazing. One time a couple months ago I was being a bit snappy with him one night and I had the thought “only people who don’t like their partners are snappy with them” and it just stuck. Now I struggle with intrusive thoughts about my own feelings, do I love him, do I miss him enough, is my relationship going to end because this couple on social media broke up. I could deal with the thoughts about his feelings because he is so so good about making me feel loved but now I’m stuck in this constant guilt loop where I question my relationship for no reason then get anxious and feel guilty for even thinking that way because I think I’m manifesting it. Was wondering if anybody else in a healthy long term relationship has had this happen to them and how you talk yourself down :(

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Username: crazyfeelings

Date posted: 1y ago

Confused

Hello, I am 20 years old and I believe I’m suffering from ROCD. I’ve had these issues on an off in my 2 year relationship and it’s been a big struggle for me. My boyfriend is the best, kindest soul I know and I just never want to lose him. The story is kind of confusing but bear with me. My childhood crush from when I was a sophomore in high school is still really close friends with my cousin, so I see him a lot. I am always worried and freaking out that I still like this childhood crush, Im constantly checking my feelings, looking things up, and just ruminating all day. It’s been very triggering for me and stressful. I constantly feel like I need to breakup with my boyfriend because “what if i still like him” (my childhood crush). I need opinions on what you guys think I should do. I don’t know if i’m just insecure and scared of losing my boyfriend or if I’m genuinely still having feelings for this past person. I will say I have had a history with sexual orientation ocd so I have had many experiences like this before.

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