Can someone send reassurance?

One thing that I’ve noticed about my OCD is that it makes me feel very regretful and embarrassed at the end of every day. I reflect on every interaction and every conversation and any thought that I’ve had throughout the day. As a result, I feel more and more ashamed of the way that I act, even though it is probably normal for some of my age to act and see the things that I say. Earlier today I flirted with a guy and then as soon as it ended I had so much religious and moral guilt about it. Does anyone have any advice on how to not feel so ashamed after doing the typical activities that people in their 20s do? I feel like these thoughts are making me want to isolate from everyone else so that I’m not put in the position to do and say these things. I feel comfortable with myself when I don’t talk to anybody but I’m noticing that that can’t be normal . I don’t want to lose friendships and potential relationships out of fear that I’m going to say something wrong. I don’t know what to do.

Username: anniegrebanniegreb

Date posted: 51w ago

Not sure if this helps but I regret what do and say with people after I interact and I am old. It's the shame that is OCD. Your behavior sounds royalty normal. Flirting is normal. And I think a lot of people in their 20s have self doubt but ocd keeps us thinking about it again and again. I doubt everything I say and do. It's exhausting. I also had a traumatic childhood with constant criticism so I have an internal mental critic. Wish I could tell you how I deal with it all but it's too long for a post.

Username: anniegrebanniegreb

Date posted: 51w ago

Sorry, I have some AutoCorrect typos in there

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 51w ago

hi! I’m also a young adult and have dealt with the same thing. I used to think back to interactions I had at work and come up with reasons why people thought I was stupid or socially inept. Some things that helped me overcome that was 1) learning about cognitive distortions (specifically that I can’t read people’s minds or predict people’s reactions - there’s a big list on Psychology Today’s website with explanations), and 2) realizing that I’m not responsible for peoples feelings, and I’m not responsible for making people like me. Now when I start to ruminate on the social interactions I had throughout the day, I’m able to recognize it as OCD and I get sassy. I said something and am afraid the other person thinks I’m a complete freak? Ok, well 1) unless they said that, I can’t read their mind and have no way of knowing that. And 2) even if they do, I choose not to care because it’s not my responsibility or my problem It took a lot of practice for me to actually believe this but eventually my brain started to re-wire itself and these thoughts were bothering me less and less! Sending good vibes and good luck 🫶🏻

Username: JenniesOCDBrainJenniesOCDBrain

Date posted: 50w ago

hey there, i can hear how tough this is for you, feeling swamped with guilt and shame after everyday interactions. it's rough when your own mind turns into a place that's not so comfy at the end of the day. you're definitely not alone in feeling this way. 🌟 i've been there with the OCD struggles, and what really helped me was this free AI tool called "unstuck" (unstuckmyocd.com/try) that my OCD therapist shared with me. it'll be especially helpful for you because it provides personalized, step-by-step support that feels a lot like working with an actual OCD therapist, guiding you through the tough moments without feeding into the cycle of reassurance. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have Qs or just want to talk more! <3

Username: Violet2411

Date posted: 5y ago

Does anyone else suffer from ‘Real life events’ OCD? I constantly worry about things I did as a teenager (from ages 15-19) I wasn’t a very nice person and think I was quite a toxic girlfriend in my first relationship. I’m always terrified that people are going to find out and that I’m going to lose my job or something awful. I also think that a lot of people would be so shocked if they knew some of the things that I’d done, and that they would think so much less of me. I feel a constant need to confess or apologise, and wish more than anything that I could erase that whole chapter of my life. Previously in counselling, we looked at ‘black and white thinking’, and I managed to rationalise that everyone makes mistakes and nothing I did was that bad, but I have this horrible feeling that one day this will all catch up with me. Is this just genuine guilt and remorse or is this a symptom of OCD? Thanks in advance.

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Username: rachelm89

Date posted: 5y ago

Hi there! Does anyone else experience real event OCD? My days lately are filled with (sometimes) crippling guilt and shame over real things that have happened in the past. These are all things that are relatively minor in the grand scheme of things. I’ve talked to friends/family/therapists about them and I’m reassured they aren’t “that bad” but my mind can’t seem to let them go. Anyone else dealing with this? Any tips for forward progress? Much love to you all. ❤️

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Username: Nathanannon

Date posted: 1y ago

This is hell.

Ok sorry this is kinda a quick post just desperate for help. Any advice anyone who can provide some help or advice. I’m feeling pretty overwhelmed and suicidal at the moment so writing this isn’t easy, I’m struggling to find the words to describe how I’m feeling right now, so I’m just gonna lay it out as it is. Although I haven’t been formally diagnosed with ocd I have allot and I mean allot of the symptoms. My life and mental state is horrible and it’s hard. Ur I try and get get by with the good things in my life. Sorry I’m not here for a pity party or sob story. I know you all are better and have enough to worry about. Basically I had a friend who was 14 and I met when I was 17. We talked for a few months and while we where pretty chill out conversations sometimes involved more suggestive things. Talking as teenagers do. However as I was getting close to being 18 I knew I had to stop this out of morals and my own judgement. So I did. Or so I thought, I’m my opinion what i said here was wrong and my ocd if I even have it is telling me I’m a creep and some monster who deserves to die and suffer. Basically now I was at the time 18 we where playing Truth and dare. Classic party game for boring nights. And I asked what there best pickup line was. I responded to there’s with “aha that was funny” and moved on. I just feel the dare I said was sexual or inappropriate to ask them. And I feel horrible so horrible I can’t even begin to explain it. I feel hopeless and I’m slowly losing grip of myself. I don’t wanna seem like I’m begging or asking for reassurance but any semblance of hope would help. Or advice honestly I would be great full for both. Thank you for reading whoever you are and i hope ur day is going better than mine.

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